something that honestly really irk is when people try to decide for others what is " genderfuck " - and worse , when use this specifically to insult .

woman can have beard and not be genderfuck , simply because beards not inherently masculine - literally just hair that grow out of face . in fact , that woman might feel that facial hair is most womanly thing about body , and have full right to say so .

man can wear dresses and not be genderfuck , simply because dresses not inherently feminine - literally just fabric which drape and sew in certain ways . in fact , that man might feel that dresses most manly thing about presentation , and have full right to say so .

anyone can wear anything , and exist with any body part , simply because these things do not have inherent gender qualities . can very well decide that any aspect personally represent any gender , and have full right to say so .

to be genderfuck is intentional , self-chosen label . to call others genderfuck just because of these aspects , especially in negative way , just reinforce expectations of binary . which is shitty to everyone .

in terms of whether or not communities have more men than women - which in some parts is also influence by platform and algorithms ...

male femininity , and what people perceive as male femininity , is under extreme scrutiny in this world . people doubt whether really feminine , really " deserve " to be any kind of girl or woman , especially if not fit into specific binary expectations of womanhood - that is to say , without any manhood or masculinity to speak of .

as well , people still heavily associate particular body parts with particular genders . so if someone present with any sort of mix sex traits , people will obsess and assign which parts feminine , which parts masculine , and try to guess which one is " real " .

this make uncomfortable and unsafe situations especially if happen to be intersex , whether or not fall along typical gender binary . to really be intersex woman or intersex man , one must shut up and consider intersex body to be broken toy , to hide and cut away anything people perceive as male femininity - or female masculinity for that matter .

there really is this extreme scrutiny to make sure that femininity is " pure and un-manly " , as if masculinity is some kind of toxic ooze that corrupt . this is something which hurt everyone , but especially those already most vulnerable .

alongside individuals here who can be anyone and anything , collectively kossai is intersex and bigender , man and maiden both . say maiden moreso for aesthetic appeal than anything else - different words for genders have somewhat different connotations after all , whether that be bright bubbly pinks , sparkly red evening dresses , or delicate flowers - but regardless ... yeah , honestly feel unsafe to talk about in general public .

people make too many assumptions , prod too deep into things that have no right to prod , put under scrutiny and try to decide which one really deserve to exist . but there is no way to separate , to exist as only one - both always there , both always extremely important , regardless of what current clothes express .

so - what is perception of who really count as man or woman ? can someone be both ? is there some secret rule that determine which ones get to be women and which ones do not ? how many men hide these identities , hide femininity and womanhood , with knowledge that people will use one gender to invalidate other ? how many women get cast aside from ideas of womanhood unfairly ?